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The Four Types of Abuse

by Stephen Cocconi - Channeling Michael - 1996

Abuse is a vague word. It is vague because there are so many ways in which it can be perpetrated. There are four main categories of abuse. Some are more obvious and some more subtle. Each type of abuse as listed below are sequential and will tend to build upon each other.

Emotional abuse strategies are usually the first to arise based upon a persons inner state that they, the abuser, have been hurt by you. This justification, when fully unconscious, as it is most of the time, will manifest itself eventually in the abusers words. "If you weren’t this way or that, if you didn’t do this thing or that, if you didn’t say this or that, etc." For the counselor of the abused, this information can be the sign post leading to the source of the abusers abused past.

In fact, the whole usefulness of the Inner Child concept is to understand where we were victimized when we were helpless. The whole point of counseling is for the Inner Adult to put at end to the tyranny our grown-up, acting out child, maight be inflicting upon others.

Emotional Abuse - Sarcasm, invalidating the other person instead of the person's idea. Body language and facial expressions will convey anger or disapproval. When no words are offered as to explanation, the child will incorporate these "looks" into their unconscious and associate them with meanings. usually around

Verbal Abuse/Psychological - Name calling, lying, witholding information,

Sexual Abuse - Child molestation, unwanted fondling, spousal rape, witholding of sex form spouse or lover, humiliation sexual positions, going numb during sex.

Physical Abuse - Literal hitting, kicking, pulling on ears, inflicting burns upon another, deprivation of water, food, sleep or means to keep up ones hygiene.

The punishing parent who uses a belt or stick or club or devise of any kind to discipline the child. In and of itself, spanking with a hand doesn’t mean abuse. There are other factors that are important. It is important in the animal kingdom for the young to get some direct body to body pain as a way of teaching about social hierarchy and consequence. This bodily training actually reinforces safety and bonding between parent and child --- when used appropriately and sparingly!)

One thing should be noted here. There are varying degrees of each type. This list is meant to illustrate the many ways that we callously andquite commonly hurt one another. What is vital to understand is how commonplace a fashion we all inflict abuse upon one another. The reason is simple: we all hurt - and when we hurt it spills over onto others. That is the law "passing the experience" at work. Make sure you know what it is that you hurt from. Being a victim is not the issue here, it is when we become the perpetrator that things get rough.

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The Four Types of Abuse