The Michael Motivation Cards

9 Acceptance

9 Acceptance
What this card means... Who and what you include is a function of acceptance. Allowing things to be as they are with preference, but not requirement.

Open the Mind to the Higher Truth
We are all connected!


Dahli Lama - Acceptance as defined in the Michael Teaching

Card messages in the Illuminated position.

+ Affiliation

(Agape, Inclusive, Wise, Guileless, Kind)

  1. Freud said, “A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what direct him in the world.” Agape is to be in total accord and releasing all judgment and loving without condition. Are you accepting yourself? Who else might need your acceptance?
  2. Accepting conditions as they are is the way to maintain balance when circumstances are not to your liking. Sharing Agape does not mean you resign yourself to the situation nor does it mean you forgive bad behavior. Dissolve the power of vexing complications by accepting them as is and move through, over, or around them.
Acceptance Goal of The Michael TeachingQuotes relating this sentiment…
  • “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”  Carl Rogers
  • “A true man never frets about his place in the world, but just slides into it by the gravitation of his nature, and swings there as easily as a star.” Edwin Hubbel Chaplin
  • “Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there’s all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.”  Arthur Gordon
  • “Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgement of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you’re going to do about it.” Kathleen Casey Theisen

Card messages in the Shadow position.

+ Ingratiation

(Nice, flattery, fawning, agreeable, duplicitous, insincere, smarmy, unctuous, placating, hypocricy,)

  1. Ingratiation is the tool of the phony salesman. Suck-ups and yes-men only seek favor with those from whom they want something. They are afraid that others will not like them if they are genuine. Is there a people-pleaser in your midst? Confront it by accepting the truth…even if you don’t want to hear it!
  2. Resigned to a situation? You think this is Acceptance? Not a chance! You’ve caved in on some dream or principle in order to ingratiate with a crowd that you believe might take care of you. Are you stuck brown-nosing in fear of losing.
Quotes relating this sentiment…
  • “To understand is hard. Once you understand it is easy.” Sun Yat-Sen 
  • “The manager accepts the status quo; the leader challenges it.”  Warren Bennis
  • “Men who cannot conceive a happiness of their own accept a definition imposed upon them by others.” Earl Shorris

Relevance within the Michael Teaching

Acceptance has a two fold purpose regarding why a person might chose it:  one internal motive and another interactive motive. The first is an attempt to resolve an inner struggle allowing the cessation of some painful belief or life circumstance. The other is a strategic approach to finding accord with others in hopes of finding more common ground with another.

Accord in affiliation with others but also the circumstances one encounters in life are essential to this Expressive Goal. Essences choose this approach to life as a means of coming to terms with something or someone that has cause it confusion or pain or to whom it might owe Karma. A great equalizer in many respects because it can be passive, acquiesing, agreeable, and have a desire to please such that it tends to shun or back down from conflict whenever possible. However, when a person is in this pole they may have reached an emotional aplomb from which they may contrast greatly from the drama that surrounds them at any given moment.

But the “people pleaser” or “enabler” or “suck-up” or “yes-man” all live under the negative pole of Ingratiation. Fearing that their native way of being will either offend another and thus is somehow not sufficient in its own right, the Acceptor in this pole becomes a phony. A pretender that will always want to make things seem alright and not scare anybody away. The person in Acceptance hates being isolated, or disconnected from others even when that connection is emotionally abuse, spiritually toxic, intellectually stifling and causes the person to forego their own integrity for the company of others.

Over a quarter of the worlds population have this Goal and do so for a variety of Essence agendas.  Inherantly about communicating warmth, inclusion, and a willingness to allow rather than shun; it strives to feel the very gift which it Expresses in its nature: namely, AGAPE (pronounced ah-gah-pay) Which is derives from the Greek concept for Unconditional brotherly love – or that which is granted by the Gods themselves.

To gain acceptance is a high achievement. Coupled with other supportive Overleaves, it might serve to bring a person a kind of peace because struggling against what is, is simply a waste of energy.

Famous Examples

Jesus of Nazareth, (Christ was a title not a name!) His Holiness the XIV Dahlia Lama,  President John Kennedy, Dolly Parton, Jay Leno, George W. Bush, Hugh Jackman, John Muir, Sally Fields, Courtney Cox, Ben Affleck

Cultural Relevance

Almost all religious institutions claim the mantle of Acceptance as a canon of their faith. Doctrine and practice however will tend to slide to the side of Discrimination listing the exceptions or exemptions to the general principle. Acceptance allows engagement in life on life’s own terms, without trying to make it conform to an agenda.

Acceptance might be your Goal if…

  1. I try not to judge anyone because I hate to be judged.
  2. Criticism hurts me greatly.
  3. When people get angry I might be quiet or try to intervene and be peacemaker.
  4. Nothing feels as good as being liked.
  5. People call me a “suck-up” or a people pleaser because I want approval from others.
  6. It is hard to make a decision when I am the only one who believes my position.
  7. I’d rather not rock the boat just be safely in it.
  8. I try to adapt to the people or circumstances with which I find myself.
  9. I’d rather say something nice and lie, than deliver a harsh truth.
  10. Does having a disagreement feel extremely risky and uncomfortable?
by Stephen Cocconi © 2012

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